I always love Valentine’s Day. It’s the day to celebrate being lovers and giving presents to each other to enhance the intimacy that you share. Sounds like fun to me. A day of romantic pleasure, full of sensuous delights.
It’s important to communicate your expectations regarding what you would like to have happen on this day with your lover before Valentine’s Day. You want to make sure that you are both on the same page as far as what you would like to experience. No right or wrong just what works for both of you. Surprises are fun, but the basic format or plan needs to be discussed ahead of time. Too many couples think that their partner should know what they want and they shouldn’t have to come out and tell them. This approach is very risky and can lead to a very disappointing experience. If expectations are communicated before the day then if there are any conflicts in what you both want to do then they can be resolved before the day.
As for the roses, yes they are expensive, but they are worth their value in what they communicate to your lover. You are telling her that she is still your lover, and you are treating her just like you did when you first met when you were in the pursuit of her love and wouldn’t think about the price.
Valentine’s Day is the day to remind us what being lovers is all about; giving pleasure to one another whether it be emotional, physical or enjoying a nice meal together. It’s about sharing time and space together. That’s what being romantic is all about, sharing intimately. Romance is about creating an atmosphere or an experience that fosters a couple’s ability to be totally connected with each other without the distractions of television, computers, children and other people.
One last thing, the Valentine’s card is an opportunity to express in writing how you truly feel about your lover. Get a blank card and write down how important your lover is to you in detail. The more detail there is the more it has meaning and impact.
Happy Valentine’s Day!
